1. GRIEF RECOVERY: IS A NEGLECTED GROWTH PROCESS. 2. WE ARE ILL-PREPARED TO DEAL WITH LOSS: We are taught how to acquire things, not how to lose them. We are taught myths about dealing with grief. We are taught myths about dealing with the past. We are taught myths about dealing with the future. Most of us persist in believing these myths. 3. OTHERS ARE ILL PREPARED TO HELP US DEAL WITH LOSS: They don't know what to say. They are afraid of our feelings. They try to change the subject. They intellectualize. They think "keeping busy will help." They don't want to talk about death. They want us to keep our faith. They want their help to be effective. 4. "ACADEMY AWARD' RECOVERY: We want the approval of others. We experience a loss of aliveness. We suppress our feelings. We act out. IN CHOOSING TO RECOVER WE NEED TO GAIN AWARENESS. ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY, IDENTIFY RECOVERY COMMUNICATIONS. TAKE ACTION. AND THEN MOVE BEYOND LOSS. COUPLES /SINGLES STILL ANGRY AND GRIEVING OVER INFERTILITY LOSS OFTEN SABOTAGE THEIR ADOPTION PLANS UNKNOWINGLY. THERE ARE NO SHORTCUTS IN THIS AREA-THIS ONE CANNOT BE FAKED .......... Ellen Roseman |
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